Good-bye
"Comes the Dawn"
After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul ...
And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't mean security…
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises...
And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up
and your eyes open, with the grace of a woman [or man]
not the grief of a child, and learn to build all your roads on to-day because
tomorrow's ground in too uncertain for plans,
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight…
After a while, you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much,
you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers...
And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong and you really do have worth..
And you learn... and you learn...
With every goodbye...You learn…
-- Veronica Shoffstall
Cool Stuff: Listen to Airplane Radio Traffic
I love LiveATC - you can listen to airports and planes all over the world through the magic of the internet.
The (Hidden) Cultural Center of the Universe
Non-natives of the Bay Area can't truly appreciate the common heritage that we share - truly horrible local commercials that should have been considered crimes against humanity and locally-produced PSAs that were clearly a labor of love for some talented and unknown people.
(I know who Pat McCormick is, do you?)
But when you consider the sum total of creative talent in the Bay Area, in business or in simply just being an interesting person - the San Francisco Bay Area has this tremendous vibe of life that I've seen only in very few places.
Architectural Styles That I Hate
Architecture and art have this neat thing about them - you like what you like and you know it instantly. You should be able to articulate why you like something (or not) but after that - art and architecture are 100% subjective. In the Chron this morning, there's a discussion about Eichler Homes in the Bay Area - some people love them and they give tours. I hate Eichler homes. That being said - here are some quick and uninformed opinions about architecture from Tim:
The Good Old Days (They Were Terrible!)
I got these via email from a friend of the site today - these are 3-year-old snaps of my last day at HDS. We used this clamshell box to prank different people around the office - I could easily fold up inside and be wheeled around to pop out at random locations. When I joined my current job - I tried to borrow the box to resurrect the prank for a new gig but they weren't able to locate it in among the junk that HDS stores at their warehouse. It was fun while it lasted - the 5 minutes of mirth we enjoyed were probably the most fun I had in the 5.5 years I worked there.
Kinda Sad News
John Hughes is dead. Yes, that John Hughes.
The guy who helped define and memorialize the 80s passed away today from a heart attack and a little piece of every Gen X kid dies along with him. I loved the fact that his movies capture your imagination and your heart -- who of us doesn't want to be Molly Ringwald or Michael Schoeffling [Jake Ryan]? We all laughed and secretly hoped that we would never be Anthony Michael Hall - no matter what movie he happened to be in.
For those of you who might ask "Why John Hughes" my response would be "Why Ed McMahon?"
Just cuz....
The Boomer’s Last Hurrah
It's scary to contemplate what events my generation will be remembering with media saturation 40 years from now. As we close out the first decade of the 21st century, the 40th anniversary memorials to Woodstock and the Apollo 11 landing along with the 65th anniversary of D-day - it seems like remembering things is becoming its own commodity and the guy who can remember it best wins.
This is pretty cool, though - The Boston Globe has a collection of Apollo 11 pics for the Big Picture. I appreciate that the print media sometimes scoops digital by providing a better context to events. Print media keeps screaming that they are dying and I think maybe that's true - but the industry for knowledge has only begun and those people who lose their job publishing info in one way will probably find a new job doing the same thing - even if in a different way.
As we approach other days that are significant only because something important happened on the same day many years before, I would suggest that it's not only important to remember what happened but also why and what we learned. What was the point of going to the moon if you can't appreciate the fragile beauty of the Earth? What was the point of Woodstock if we really aren't serious about 'peace and love'? What was the point of D-day if on a daily basis many wars continue on the Earth? Are humans prepared to take the lessons of history at face value or are we doomed to repeat the same errors?
Just something to think about...
Stop Acting Like a Big Baby
Sometimes focusing on a problem is the answer; you want to understand how you got to that point. Other times, it's indistinguishable from whining and nobody wants that. On that note - please enjoy this article from Zenhabits.
How to Stop Acting Like Such a Big Baby
But then, I don't want to forget what I've learned because I want to repeat my mistakes as seldomly as possible. So then I found this:
How to learn from your mistakes
And because The Lady had requested I post this some place that I could find - here is Why smart people defend bad ideas
Discussing Good vs. Evil
Another death worth mentioning - Robert McNamara died yesterday at 93. His life and thoughts are the subject of a movie called The Fog of War that I would recommend you watch. The clip below is from the film and I wanted to share it because it speaks very frankly about the difficulty of human beings to navigate the questions that come up when you engage in doing evil things in order to produce good.
The older I get, the more I see that even doing things with the best of intentions is no guarantee that unintended consequences will not come down on you in ways you could not have imagined. Mr. McNamara knew that better than I ever will - no one is ever going to trust me with the decision to use a nuclear weapon. Being responsible for safely nurturing and raising a human being is hard enough.
Note - the original clip was also featured on another blog and as a result, Sony Pictures pulled it. I've resubmitted this post with a different clip.
I Know, Let’s Have a Gross-Off!
Maybe you heard about the Monorail crash at Disneyworld today - pretty sad and gross. Although Gawker calls it 'the first fatality from the Monorail at Walt Disney World since it first opened' it is definitely not the first fatality at a Disney Park. Submitted for your consideration - we present:
The Disneyland Death Tour - A listing of park fatalities going back to the 60s. Text-heavy and macabre, it'll take a while to get through.
In other news - I'm glad to see Dean Cain is working - I wasn't so glad to watch the video [pretty gross].


