TimWoolery.net Documenting the Journey and the Learning Curve

The Test

I think the strangest thing I've learned about myself is that things can be so real to me - something can be so obvious to me - and yet it can be a completely foreign concept to other people.  Bridging the gap between reality for myself and other people has meant that I have had to be very cautious about forcing my opinions on other people.  New skills have to be learned: staying at the center of a number of moving pieces and parts and dealing with the uncertainty that always follows.

There's a real danger to yourself in terms of being the guy who 'shoots from the hip' - making intuitive decisions based on limited information.  You see what's in front of you, you decide with a snap and you go.  Put the reservations aside and just go for it. Make the project work, make the annual vacation plans, buy the car, buy the TV.  Don't worry about the details - you're YOU and you can make it work.

This might work for a while and you can get by on congratulating yourself for being 'decisive'.  But later on as the challenges become more complex you see that something else starts to happening.  You experience 'wins' far less than you do 'strategic victories'.  You see more raised eyebrows and less back slaps.  At the watershed moment, when you've taken this logic as far as you can possibly go - everything starts to melt away like a clock in a Salvador Dali painting.

So what do we learn?

I’m still wrestling with that question.  It suggests a failure on my part and it suggests a flaw of judgment, maybe even of character on my part.  I’m scared of what it might mean.  I’ll end this for now – but wanted to post it just so you can get an idea as to where my head is at.

Cheers.