TimWoolery.net Documenting the Journey and the Learning Curve

2Sep/10Off

Style, Substance and You

I was thinking about how people relate to each other and stumbled over a piece of the puzzle I wanted to share with you.  It's discussed in this article (and associated book title) but I wanted to apply it more toward human interaction and not just why people go to Starbucks when McDonald's also serves coffee.

Last year I was driving The Lady and other people nuts trying to organize group activities and socially relevant things to do.  I pursued it with the same focus and intensity that Lizzie Borden showed toward her parents.  The results were predictable.  I had to reconcile some different ideas and I think I've gotten to a point where I need to write this down, for myself as much as for you.

26Aug/10Off

The Smug Mug

The good thing about living sensibly is that you know you'll eventually be proved to be right.  The bad thing about living sensibly is that 'eventually' can mean anywhere from 1 week to 30 years.  Bill Watterson - the creator of Calvin and Hobbes - said it best: "Virtue needs some cheaper thrills."  Living sensibly means that you exist on a longer timeline.  You forgo the faster, cheaper success for the long term accomplishment.  Existing on that timeline means that you have to tune out the noise from the party and keep reminding yourself "It's hard but it's worth it ... I want the long-term goal."

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19Aug/10Off

Backpacking II – The Madness of Crowds

Life is about navigating the space between ideas - I think I've mentioned that before.  Orson Welles said it thusly:

For thirty years people have been asking me how I reconcile X with Y! The truthful answer is that I don't. Everything about me is a contradiction and so is everything about everybody else. We are made out of oppositions; we live between two poles. There is a philistine and an aesthete in all of us, and a murderer and a saint. You don't reconcile the poles. You just recognize them.

The thing that I've been thinking about since I got back is this - tell me what you think.  One of the biggest challenges of the trip was the fact that I hadn't trained enough to go.  I didn't know what I was getting myself into and I paid the price.  Going from sea level to 8,000 feet and then hiking to 9,500 feet is something I wouldn't recommend for anyone but the most dedicated masochist.  Surrounded by all that beauty, I was miserable - I could barely breathe.  I was huffing and puffing like a fat guy climbing to the cheap seats and it was quite embarrassing.  Altitude sickness is nothing to sneeze at but somehow I thought at 9,000 feet it wouldn't be much of a factor.

And maybe it isn't ... maybe I was just out of shape.

So I thought about why I hadn't pushed myself harder and a philosophical discussion ensued.

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17Aug/10Off

Backpacking I

Some quick notes and pics from the backpacking trip last weekend.  All I can say at this point was, 'it was one of the hardest things I have ever done.'  I'm still trying to put together how I feel about it and once I have that figured out, I'll talk about it here.  In the meantime, please enjoy this footage of Momma Bear being chased by a park ranger and some snaps from the trip.  Cheers.

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10Aug/10Off

Crustacean Politics II

Said this a few days ago and have been thinking about it ever since.  A trusted advisor (who shall remain nameless) had an interesting response to it.  They asked "Okay ... so you see them as a crab pot.  Why, then, do you keep jumping back in?"  I had to admit that I didn't have an answer.  In the past few weeks I've experienced multiple 'family drama' moments and even though the major circumstances were beyond my control, I had to admit that I was willing to jump in with both feet.  That was hard for me to admit and I've spent a lot of time thinking about why.

Every time I visit the grandparents - I always come away with the burden of the subtle pressure they put on me to fix whatever is wrong with my extended family.  No matter how many times I've been through this, I'm still their 'little Timmy' [See example ->] and subject to the role they are accustomed to and there's always a part of me that is afraid to trust my viewpoint ahead of theirs.  The combined result is that I'll usually drop into some seething cauldron of angst for a while and come out again with something deeper about what I'm trying to understand about me.  So, why do I keep going back into the crab pot? Here's the answer:

8Aug/10Off

Events over the past few weeks leave me prone to going up into my head way, way too much.  Need some rest, need to not read into things, need to not try to resolve the cognitive dissonance.  I'll figure it out at some point but nothing says I have to figure it out now.

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4Aug/10Off

105mm Films – “Investment Insights”

Investment Insights from Dr. Harry Markowitz, PhD from Bellatore on Vimeo.

They don't allow embedded video from anywhere else except the company site.  Please enjoy our first corporate-funded project.  There will be others.

3Aug/10Off

Crustacean Politics

"Expectations are premeditated resentments," Mike the Trainer used to tell me.  I don't know why pumping iron and philosophy go together so well but they do.  I think most of the gym rats I know are philosophers on the inside - it helps when you discover that your eyes were bigger than your muscles.  The sad truth is that expectation was the currency of my home life growing up and it is the currency of a lot of extended family relationships now.  Because of that, I can't be around them - you don't have the hands to hold you down and neither do you have them to hold you up.  You have to be your own strength and you have to be strong enough to live outside the normal family dynamic of people you can call on.

3Aug/10Off

Rough week - everything decided to go boom at the same time.  I've said it before - life moves like this:

  • Nothing
  • Nothing
  • Nothing
  • EVERYTHING

Rather than complain about it - we used it as an opportunity to put our cooperation skills into practice and I'm pleased with how well everything turned out.  We cooperated to buy a nice car, compressing 30 days of shopping into 2:

And we're getting other parts of our lives in order - even small stuff like swapping out light switches - it all snowballs.

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21Jul/10Off

Point Break

The good news is that I'm getting better at taking bad news.  The bad news is that I'm not that good at taking bad news - I'm just better than I used to be.  Life provides little tests and gut checks from time to time.  I had one or several last week and it illustrates both progress and room for improvement.